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Feeling sorry for yourself?
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“Feeling sorry for yourself?”
You’ve lost your job one way or another. Now you are feeling sorry for yourself. You’re probably angry and may even be thinking of revenge. After you’ve spent some time, and make it very little time, think of what Dale Carnegie had to say on the subject. “Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.” It is natural to feel sorry for yourself when you lost your job, no matter how this happened. Losing your job is a big deal. You don’t have a job and it sucks!
Read what Carnegie had to say again. First feeling sorry for yourself is “a waste of energy.” It takes energy, time and thinking power to feel sorry for oneself. You’re going to need that energy, time and brainpower to find a job.
The second thing Carnegie says that feeling sorry for yourself is “the worst habit you could possibly have.” Feeling sorry for yourself in the long run is going to do nothing but perpetuate itself.
It is easy to give this advice and to understand what Carnegie is saying. It is not so easy to stop feeling sorry for oneself when you lose your job. That conversation is going on in your head. How did this happen? Will knowing the answer help you in the long run? If you think so figure it out, learn from it and move on. What am I going to do now? That is the important question and the one you need to focus your energy, brainpower and time on.
What are you going to do now? Sit down and think about it for a while. What have you always wanted to do? Make a list of your dream jobs. What are you truly passion about? What unique skills do you have? Nothing is too crazy or dumb at this point. Grab a piece of paper and a pencil and start writing. When you are done with the list go back over it. Pick one of your dream jobs and write down what it would take to have that job. Do this for all the jobs on your list. Will it take additional training or education? Will you have to relocate? Do you want to start your own business? What will that take? It is time to make a plan for your future. This is an opportunity to make your life better. Achieving your dream job is not the only thing that is going to make your life better. It is only a part of your life, it is an important part, but not the whole enchilada. Use this opportunity to not only figure out your work life, but what is truly important to your well-being.
When you hear that voice in your head saying “poor, poor me”, turn it off. Do something positive. Look at your list. Go to the library and do some research on your dream job. Go for a walk or bike ride, spent some time with family and friends.
Now read Dale Carnegie’s words once again.
“Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.”
Check out: Where do I start?
Here are some sources you might want to check:
Life Of Learning Foundation – is a non-profit organization founded for the purpose of helping people to realize their full potential.
Coping.org – Tools For Coping With Life’s Stressors
Depression.com - Depression is not something you can just "snap out of."
©2007. nuker. All Rights Reserved
"Knowledge is power."
Sir Francis Bacon Meditationes Sacrae [1597]
If you would like to reprint part or all Nuker’s Rant, go ahead. We'd just like credit. So, link away. We'd also like to know if you do use it. Contact us: LaidOffHelp@LaidOffHelp.com We’re easy.
“Feeling sorry for yourself?”
You’ve lost your job one way or another. Now you are feeling sorry for yourself. You’re probably angry and may even be thinking of revenge. After you’ve spent some time, and make it very little time, think of what Dale Carnegie had to say on the subject. “Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.” It is natural to feel sorry for yourself when you lost your job, no matter how this happened. Losing your job is a big deal. You don’t have a job and it sucks!
Read what Carnegie had to say again. First feeling sorry for yourself is “a waste of energy.” It takes energy, time and thinking power to feel sorry for oneself. You’re going to need that energy, time and brainpower to find a job.
The second thing Carnegie says that feeling sorry for yourself is “the worst habit you could possibly have.” Feeling sorry for yourself in the long run is going to do nothing but perpetuate itself.
It is easy to give this advice and to understand what Carnegie is saying. It is not so easy to stop feeling sorry for oneself when you lose your job. That conversation is going on in your head. How did this happen? Will knowing the answer help you in the long run? If you think so figure it out, learn from it and move on. What am I going to do now? That is the important question and the one you need to focus your energy, brainpower and time on.
What are you going to do now? Sit down and think about it for a while. What have you always wanted to do? Make a list of your dream jobs. What are you truly passion about? What unique skills do you have? Nothing is too crazy or dumb at this point. Grab a piece of paper and a pencil and start writing. When you are done with the list go back over it. Pick one of your dream jobs and write down what it would take to have that job. Do this for all the jobs on your list. Will it take additional training or education? Will you have to relocate? Do you want to start your own business? What will that take? It is time to make a plan for your future. This is an opportunity to make your life better. Achieving your dream job is not the only thing that is going to make your life better. It is only a part of your life, it is an important part, but not the whole enchilada. Use this opportunity to not only figure out your work life, but what is truly important to your well-being.
When you hear that voice in your head saying “poor, poor me”, turn it off. Do something positive. Look at your list. Go to the library and do some research on your dream job. Go for a walk or bike ride, spent some time with family and friends.
Now read Dale Carnegie’s words once again.
“Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have.”
Check out: Where do I start?
Here are some sources you might want to check:
Life Of Learning Foundation – is a non-profit organization founded for the purpose of helping people to realize their full potential.
Coping.org – Tools For Coping With Life’s Stressors
Depression.com - Depression is not something you can just "snap out of."
©2007. nuker. All Rights Reserved
"Knowledge is power."
Sir Francis Bacon Meditationes Sacrae [1597]
If you would like to reprint part or all Nuker’s Rant, go ahead. We'd just like credit. So, link away. We'd also like to know if you do use it. Contact us: LaidOffHelp@LaidOffHelp.com We’re easy.
